Parent Only Session from Wednesday, February 18

Notes from the Parent Only Session minus the answers to the questions from Josh and Michelle. I'll try to post a somewhat shortened response to each of those questions later. Some of the stuff we didn't even get to due to time.

Parent Only Session

(Josh) Share Stats
(Michelle) Share what questions kids asked

(Josh) Who is responsible for teaching your kids about sexuality/sex?

Group Question:
What are some of the sexual lies you’re kids’ are exposed to?

GREAT AND GODLY SEX STARTS BETWEEN THE EARS BEFORE IT’S BETWEEN THE LEGS.

When (the devil) lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. John 8:44

(Michelle) What are your students learning relationally/spouse, our bodies and others, and media?

Media is wrecking the family.

Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. John 8:32

WHAT SATAN DOESN’T WANT YOUR KIDS TO KNOW ABOUT SEX

• YOUR BOD BELONGS TO GOD.

Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body… 1 Corinthians 6:13

porneia (por-ni'-ah); illicit sex including adultery, incest, premarital sex, or any extramarital sexual arousal.

Big Idea:
Purity is the pathway to intimacy!

(Michelle) Do I tell them about my past?

WHY STAY PURE?

1) SEX IS STICKY.

Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh." 1 Corinthians 6:15-16

2) SEXUAL SIN IS MESSY.

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18

(Josh) What if my child has made a mistake?

3) SEXUAL PURITY IS AN ACT OF WORSHIP.

Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God-this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind… Romans 12:1-2

Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me…Restore to me the joy of your salvation and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me. Psalms 51:10, 12

When our view of God increases our desire to focus and worship him increases.

(Michelle) Talking about sex/sexuality is a process – not a “talk”, must revisit in over and over.

Commit to pray.

Question:
What can you do today to better worship God with purity?

Internet Security for Parents and Students

Here is some of the info from our parents only sex talk on wednesday night. comment if you have any questions.

Safe Eyes is one resource that we highlighted. Safe Eyes is a monitoring software that has tools for both personal and mobile devices. You can check out more info at Safe Eyes

Here is another resource that a family in our church uses. It has some great stuff.
Here's what we're doing at my house instead of using Safe Eyes. On my
wireless router, instead of using knology's DNS servers, I'm using
OpenDNS's DNS servers (check them out at ). If
you open a free account with them, you can tell them to not allow adult
sites. If someone at my house tries to go to an adult site, they will
get a "blocked" message in their browser.

There are advantages and disadvantages to using OpenDNS vs. Safe Eyes.

Pros:
- OpenDNS is free
- You go to 1 place to handle all computers, laptops, PSPs, iTouch
iPods, etc. that use the wired/wireless internet in your house.

Cons:
- OpenDNS is not monitoring software - you can't monitor what your kids
are saying with IMs, on FaceBook, etc. (However, you can completely
block MySpace/FaceBook/etc. if you would like.)

You could also combine the two - use OpenDNS to block adult sites and
use Safe Eyes to monitor everything else.

check this resource out at OpenDNS

Comment and let us know if you decide to use any of these or if you know of any other resources.

Parent SEX Talk

Wednesday night we are hosting the parents during our wednesday night worship gathering for students. It will be an amazing time. Make sure you get your parents there. Doors open at 6pm and ends at 8:15pm. Don't worry students you will be out of the room while Michelle and I are talking to your parents, so breath a sigh of relief and invite them to be there. See you wednesday night!

who's got talent?

We are looking for someone who can do this to a song on wednesday night. Who has the gift? Comment if you can!


Cadbury Eyebrows from Nils-Petter Lovgren on Vimeo.

Sex Series

Does the word “sex” make you uncomfortable? Does sex make you think about “hurling” when you process talking about it with your student? Did you just get a lump in your throat?

We want to help and affirm the teaching you as parents are giving your students on this topic. God has much to say about sex in scripture. Just to name a few.

Applicable Scripture on the Topic: Ephesians 5:3 Colossians 3:5-6 , 1 Corinthians 6:12-19

We believe sex is a special gift from God only to be shared with our husband or wife. Our desire is to help you and your students clearly communicate about sex no matter how weird you may feel about it.

Over the years the Church has stayed silent on this topic for far to long relegating sexual education to primetime media. Our desire as a student ministry is to seek to have open, real, and clear communication about sex and sexual issues and how it relates to students and families. This series will tackle topics such as Biblical Foundation of Sex, Guys and Girls Only Issues, and Parent and Student issues. We believe this is a vary necessary topic as so many students are faced sexual pressure everyday. This series is beyond talking about just don't have sex. It will look at the importance of waiting and the fact that not having sex has less to do with getting pregnant or a disease. Waiting has to do with trusting God with your future and making wise choices.

Andy Stanley and Stuart Hall said it best, Purity paves the way to Intimacy. We really have a desire for every one of our students to wait until marriage for any type of sexual relationship with anyone. Sex is way beyond a physical activity. We want our students to understand what could be missed by mistrusting God. We also want students to understand their significance in Christ and His desire for them to experience a intimate relationship at the right time. There is so much pressure on our students these days and we want to help them combat the pressure by seeking God with all their hearts.

I want to encourage you to allow your students to participate in this incredible series about God’s design starting February 4th at The Brook on Wednesday Nights. Doors open at 6pm and everything gets cranked up at 6:30pm. I would also like to invite you (parent) to come meet with us on February 18th at 6:30pm in Building Four. There are no reservations needed. We would love for you to come with questions and an open heart. God wants your students to seek out purity, just as I know it is your desire as well. I consider it a great privilege and honor to work with your students during this journey. We want to support you. I want to encourage you to comment or email me if you have any questions. I believe this could be one of the best series we have ever had in our student ministry. I am praying that it will help you and your student open up a new chapter as it relates to relationships and sexual issues. I am praying for you.

Wednesday Night Schedule

February 4

Biblical Foundation of Sex

How do we know that sex is for one man and one woman?

Defining sex-masturbation, oral sex

Sex is a gift from God

Sex is a choice

Shift the thinking about sex

Sex is a wait issue not never issue.

February 11

Guys and Girls Only

Differences in guys and girls

Things we do now are going to affect our sexuality and the future of it.

Guys Only with Josh Britt

Issues for guys only

pornography

Girls Only with Michelle Britt

Issues for girls only

Self Image Issues

February 18

Parent/Student Q&A

Parents Only Session-Helping your student develop their sexuality and conquer their struggles

Students Only Session-Helping your parents understand your sexuality and the struggles

Large Group with Q & A

February 25

Panel Discussion

Commissioned to Purity